What Lights You Up? How To Add Positivity To Your Mindset
March 30, 2021
This phrase – what lights you up? – has come up over and over by many of my mentors. So many times that I began to pay attention.
I hope you pay close attention when you start to see patterns like this in your life.
The interesting thing is, these mentors have no affiliation with one another.
But the question was the same.
I know that life and healing has a deep spiritual component. And it’s very important to me. This is what I mean when I say pay attention to what’s going on around you. There’s always a deeper meaning. The daily things you do in life impact your health.
So what does the question what lights you up actually mean?
The Power of The Mind
The mind has immense power over one’s health.
For example, if I meet someone who is chronically fatigued, I can almost bet they hate their daily job. There’s something at work that exhausts them. Maybe that’s true for you.
When I started my own health journey, it all started with mindset. And I never realized it until many years later. I remember listening to recordings and teachings to drive a positive, can-do attitude into my life. It became such a part of me that no matter how sick I was, people began to comment on how positive my attitude was. What they didn’t know is that I worked on it every day of my life.
And I’m absolutely certain this impacted my level of healing and my ability to get better and better with time. I believed it… Even before I could see it.
One moment really stands out when thinking about how my positivity impacted my health… I was standing in a hospital on a very cold winter day. Everyone around me had sniffles and coughs – except for me. I made the comment that I never get sick. A man standing in the group looked at me, rolling his eyes, and said, “you can’t say that!”
The truth is, I can believe anything I want.
That conversation took place almost 10 years ago. I wasn’t sick then and haven’t been sick since. Will that day ever come? Let’s hope not!
My point is… The beliefs I hold have a lot to do with the state of health that I’m in.
“What Lights You Up?”
What lights you up? I used to preach that message for a long time until I got so caught up in what needed to take place from a nutrition, exercise, and lab test perspective. Unfortunately, I almost pushed the mindset work to the side.
While I was preaching a message that I believed in, I wasn’t preaching the whole picture.
So when my mentors began to ask me what lights me up again, I sat back to recall the amazing conversations I was having with my clients. Those that went a little deeper. Those that dug into the reasons they were sitting in front of me. The trauma, the victim mindset, the beliefs that they weren’t good enough…
What I recalled was conversations with these people about their childhood, the things their life had brought them through, and how they were overcoming adversity that was driving illness in their bodies.
Those were the things that drove me.
I’ve always been determined, driven, career-oriented, and passionate about health.
I began to check all those boxes in my own life…
Start my own business
Make my own schedule
Teach others how to heal their bodies naturally
And while doing this work was extremely rewarding, there was something missing on the inside of my imbalanced life.
I’ll go back to the example I gave about my chronically fatigued clients… I was becoming exhausted in the work, but part of that was because I wasn’t doing and focusing on what I loved the most.
My gift to this world is to love everyone I come in contact with and encourage them to live and be their best selves. My desire is to take someone from a place of chaos and show them how they can experience freedom – whether that be their physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual well-being.
Willingness To Commit To The Work
As I began to watch my most successful clients, I realized they all had one thing in common… Their willingness to commit to the work.
Willingness to commit to the work has more to do with your mind than anything else. If you’re willing to execute, then you will be successful with consistency. The decision to win and succeed all starts in the mind.
Some people like to say success is 10% execution and 90% managing your mind and emotions.
As humans, we’re often resistant to change and have a difficult time doing the work when we’re uncertain how to manage that part of our mind.
The people I see struggle the most are the ones who can’t get their head in the game. They’re trying to force physical transformation in the body. They say things like…
I’m eating all the right foods.
I’ve removed gluten, dairy, and sugar.
What else am I supposed to eat?
I’m walking everyday.
I’ve been going to the gym.
I’m saying my affirmations.
I’m doing detox baths.
And I’ve completely cut out wine.
I’m taking my supplements.
And I’m not getting well.
Can you see their mind? It’s like a spiderweb of emotions. Even reading this can cause stress!
And right before the needle begins to move, they give up. They bring back the wine and cheese before dinner, dessert on the weekends, decide that exercise is too taxing… And before they know it, they’re back living their old lifestyle.
The worst part of this is they gain all their weight back. They’re completely depressed and have spent a lot of money to gain nothing in return.
2 Types of People
When asking the question what lights you up, there are 2 types of responses I hear.
Mind Master
The first person chooses to learn the art of mastering their mind. They enjoy the journey by:
Learning new recipes that are fun and delicious
Choosing fun activities they can do with their children and family brings them closer together
Turning off their to-do list instead of wishing they were somewhere else during their yoga class
Looking at affirmations and self-help books as a way to encourage themselves on a daily basis
Duty Checker
The second person feels like everything is a duty. They have to knock of the following duties:
Exercise
Eat special foods
Attend family gatherings as its an inconvenience
And they certainly will not give up the biggest stressors in their lives to take time to nurture themselves and heal. And this is the reason they give up.
Now that you see the difference, you must choose.
All those years ago, I had to choose too.
So I’m going to ask you to do the same thing now. I’m also going to let you know that it’s more than diet and exercise. And if you’re stalled in your weight or any other symptom, then your problem may not be diet and exercise alone. That’s why trying to do this on your own isn’t working. That’s why hiring an expert like myself is very important. The program I’ve built is the exact thing I was missing all those years when I was so sick; I created it with you in mind.
How To Add Positivity To Your Mindset
Here’s a few steps you can take to get your mind right and add positivity to your mindset before you start working on everything else.
Envision The Life You Desire
First, I want you to understand that everything you want in life is already available to you.
You are living the exact life you’ve created in your mind.
If you can think about something, you can have it. I pull up old journals from years ago all the time, and it’s amazing what I read. I’m living almost the exact life I journaled. And it hasn’t taken that long! While I don’t reflect on those things every day, I simply believe I can have them once upon a time. Then I trust that with my aligned action, those things will come to pass.
It’s not about a feeling. You just have to move forward with certainty – realizing that the journey is the destination. There is no endpoint. You will always be learning and growing and progressing. That’s the way you were created. When you stop growing, you die.
To live the life you desire, you must master self discipline.
Your daily practices either set you up for success or failure. Not only do you need to fuel your body, but you need to fuel your mind, your passion, and your creativity.
Pray, journal, and express gratitude. Write down or talk about your daily wins. This will help you step into that next version of yourself. Think about who you are at the next level and who you want to be. Tune in so you can figure out how to take action toward that.
Clear out anything that isn’t supporting you at your highest level. You must align your heart with the person you want to become and focus on that more than anything else.
If there’s something on your to-do list that is going to take you further in your life and health than anything else, then wake up and do that first.
Take Inspired Action
People ask me what’s the best food to eat for breakfast? What is the best exercise?
While there is some science around that…
Yes, eating protein instead of carbs for breakfast is going to help you sustain blood sugar…
Yes, weightlifting is going to help increase your metabolism and burn the most fat…
I really want you to begin to tune into your body’s needs.
One of the things that gets us in the most trouble is that we look for a logical explanation for everything before we take action. And maybe there’s no logical explanation. This is what I mean by taking inspired action.
There is so much possibility when you stop aligning your life with what everyone else is doing. You are doing what works for you.
Master Your Mind And Emotions So You Can Add Positivity
When you make a decision to do something big in your life, chaos is going to happen.
You’re going to…
Feel like you don’t have the money to start the program
Think about all the other things that are more important
Worry that it may not work for you
Decide that you can’t give up the foods you love
REALLY?
When you do this, you begin to emotionally vote on your success or failure.
If you’ve decided to put your health first no matter what, then you’ve made the decision and you need to go for it.
When you go back and forth on a decision you’ve already made about anything in your life, you are putting yourself in a place of overwhelm and resistance. It shows up in the form of confusion, fear, and anxiety. It will ultimately lead to your failure.
I want to remind you that you are more than a physical body.
You are more than the nutrition you consume, more than the exercises you perform, and believe it or not, more than the thoughts you think.
You are more than enough.
Ready To Set Yourself Up For Long Term Success?
If you want success in your life and health, you have to make the decision to keep your eye on the big picture. Set yourself up for long-term success. Do what’s sustainable and what helps you grow.
Make a decision to do it now!
Stop sitting on the fence. When you sit in a place of indecision, it only makes your problem bigger. Sometimes, you’re going to make bad decisions, but a bad decision is fixable. No decision keeps you stuck.
Use this as an encouragement to push through the resistance and move forward to help you get on track so that you can truly live the life you are designed to live. And if you need my help, I will happily have a conversation with you to see if we are a good fit.
In the meantime, what lights you up? Leave a comment below.
