Many times, we get stuck in painful patterns. Emotional patterns can cause us to store pain in our body.
For this reason, I often ask my clients about their stress levels. Many of their stressors revolve around similar emotional themes – fear, worry, and anxiety. People experience…
Worry for their children
Overwhelming anxiety with little things going wrong
Do any of these resonate with you?
While many of us experience strong emotions around these aspects of our life, these emotions don’t have to cause stress. In fact, you can avoid stress by managing your emotional health.
Choose to Change Your Energy
Your body is vibrating energy, whether it’s your glow, passion, knowledge, or skills. It is an expression of your inner experience. The energy from within is invisible and constantly changes form.
Since our bodies are designed this way, it means our pain isn’t permanent! Everything is energy, and energy can change form.
And you can change your energy to overcome pain and suffering.
How to Overcome Your Emotional Pain and Physical Suffering
Very few people understand that our character traits can be hidden causes of stress. We are often the ones that perpetuate our painful patterns. Let’s talk about a few common patterns that you may be experiencing and how to overcome them.
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1. Acknowledge Your Resistance to Feel
One of the biggest sources of pain and suffering I see with my clients is resistance.
It’s common to resist things you don’t like or want to stop. If something is causing you pain, it’s instinctual to resist it. But when you resist pain, you’re unable to release it or relieve it.
We often have a false understanding that certain emotions are “bad,” so we have a tendency to push them down to avoid feeling them. The truth is, emotions aren’t good or bad. We are the ones that attach meaning to them.
When we constantly meditate on how to get rid of our pain, we resist our emotions. This keeps us stuck in a cycle. We must acknowledge it and allow it to come up in order to heal.
2. Let Go of the Emotions You’re Holding Onto
Once you’ve acknowledged your pain, it’s time to let the attached emotions go.
Another common reason people get stuck in painful patterns is because they are unable to let go of certain emotions like:
These feelings come up when we judge our pain instead of letting it go. If you find that you’re holding onto emotions, I encourage you to ask yourself why that might be. For example, many of us were taught to quickly forgive and move on. But sometimes we rush this process because that’s what is “expected”. It’s not always easy to forgive if we are still hurting!
Allow Yourself To Let Go
If you find yourself holding onto emotions, it might be because you haven’t allowed yourself to fully work through those painful emotions. Give yourself a break, and show yourself some compassion.
It’s important to forgive and let go. Allow yourself to feel your emotions first so you can truly let go.
3. Be Honest With Your Emotional Dishonesty
Emotional dishonesty is another area that keeps us stuck in a cycle of pain. This happens when we are not true to ourselves. In other words, we say or do things misaligned with our true feelings.
Are you saying “yes” when you really mean “no”?
Are you following your inner guidance?
Doing things out of guilt or obligation leads to frustration. This can tie into the patterns of pain we already discussed.
Patterns of pain can also be reinforced when we misinterpret what other people say or do. This is one area I’ve struggled with personally, and many of my clients face too.
When people say things to us or look at us a certain way, we may take it completely out of context and give it a meaning it doesn’t deserve.
For example, imagine you walk into a meeting and someone has an unkind look on their face or someone cancels your meeting at the last minute.
Sometimes the first thing that crosses our mind is the most negative possible reason for the behavior… What did I do? Did I say something wrong?
Avoid Taking Others’ Actions To Heart
If you have negative thoughts about yourself around others’ behavior, I want you to remember this: another person’s actions often have nothing to do with you. They usually have everything to do with a conflict that person is experiencing in their own life, unrelated to you.
Don’t take what others say and do personally. When we do, it causes us a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering in the long run.
The following are a few common painful patterns, but it is not a complete list. This is only a small piece of the work I do with my clients. We go through several different items like these to see what may be underlying some of the pain they are experiencing in their life.
Get To The Root Of Physical Pain
Patterns of pain aren’t the same for everyone. Most people have one or even a few problems that cause them to get stuck. Many times the root of our physical pain stems from our inability to handle emotions appropriately.
Take Authority Over Your Emotions
Before the age of eight, we are conditioned to think, believe, and behave in certain ways based on the things we’ve learned. The problem is that while we’re absorbing all this information that teaches us to respond in a certain way, we become more likely to respond automatically rather than thoughtfully.
Are your responses based on the responses of other people instead of your own inner guidance?
Before you respond to an emotional situation, pause. Remind yourself that you have authority over your emotions, and you are in the driver’s seat.
Many of the character traits we’ve developed in response to problems we face are passed on from generation to generation.
Personally, I’ve had to work through breaking this cycle in my own life by boundary-setting on a regular basis. I look back at my parents and grandparents and I see the same character traits in them that I carry. I looked at it as a curse for a long time. But one day, I realized that I could do something about it.
If I can, you can too! It’s your choice to break the cycle that is causing you pain and suffering in your life.
The best way I found to overcome pain and suffering, is through activities that help release some of these negative patterns. Anyone can do this with a professional like myself who understands the appropriate techniques.
I’m grateful for my personal experience walking through this type of work. And it’s some of the most rewarding work I currently do with my clients outside of their physical healing.
Without the emotional healing work, physical pain will often manifest itself again. That’s why I take a holistic approach to health.
I help people go from chaos to freedom so they can live in peace and make a bigger impact in the world. I’ve helped many busy professionals overcome pain and suffering by guiding them in…
Think back to before the start of the COVID-19 pandemic. What was your daily routine like? If you’re anything like me, it was busy.
As an entrepreneur, I know there is always work to be done. This is true even if you’re not a business owner. Many of us have running to-do lists of things that we hope to get done once things wind down. So, when Stay-At-Home orders were put in place, it seemed like a great time to finally start checking things off this list.
Afterall, we should all have more free time now…right?
In reality, working at home because of the Stay-At-Home order – if you are not already someone who works from home – doesn’t necessarily mean things slow down. In fact, they might be busier than before.
So while you’re operating at a faster pace, build a healthy morning routine to foster energy and take care of yourself again.
The Quick Path to Burnout
Lately, we’ve been consumed with tackling those projects we feel like we should have extra time for. At the same time, requests for online meetings have consumed our calendars – keeping us professionally and personally connected in a physically and somewhat personally disconnected time.
If you’re like me, you’re probably bouncing from one video call to the next for 12+ hours a day. Whatever it is… We all have things absorbing our days. Being wound in this non-stop routine can set anyone up for a quick path to burnout.
If you’re feeling like you’re on the quick path to burnout, you’re not alone!
Trust me, I was feeling it too.
After about a month of long days sitting at the computer, I realized something had to change. I decided to make some work-life boundaries to avoid burnout and maintain my own health.
And you can too!
Setting Healthy Boundaries to Prevent Burnout
What is filling your calendar that is causing you stress? Once you identify that filler, the next step is to set a healthy boundary around it to prevent burnout.
Personally, I’m only allowing for one networking-type event each day.
That’s my boundary.
I know you might be hesitant to say “no” to things that feel like obligations. But only you can make your wellness a priority. It’s okay to push others out if your schedule is getting overbooked.
Here are a few things I encourage you to consider when setting healthy boundaries during this time:
Plan your day, and stick to it. When your calendar is full, it’s full. Remember, you’re responsible for your own happiness. Prepare your day in a way that brings you happiness. Planning allows you to respond, rather than react.
Be true to yourself. Maintaining your integrity starts with staying true to your own values first.
Be honest with others. If you can’t commit to something, then say “no” rather than committing to something out of guilt, obligation, or fear of what others may think. Let your “yes” mean YES and your “no” mean NO.
Ask for help if you need it. Surround yourself with those who support you. You’re not alone.
Take time out everyday for a little quiet time and self-care. Block out the noise, and turn off those pesky notifications. It’s not always easy to take time out of of each day for yourself; however, when we’re intentional about our daily routines, this becomes possible.
Become more intentional about your daily routines first thing in the morning.
Build a Healthy Morning Routine
So how do you build a healthy morning routine?
For me, it all starts the moment my feet hit the floor. I usually give myself 2 to 3 hours of time to focus on myself in the mornings before I start my day with the rest of the world.
We are all different. What works for me won’t work the same way for you.
You have to customize your approach to wellness.
So, I want to give you some ideas for how to get started in building your own personal morning routine that keeps you grounded:
Practice gratitude and prayer Focus within and meditate Visualize your day Stimulate your mind Get in some morning movement
Practice Gratitude and Prayer
From the moment we wake up, we choose what energy we want to bring with us throughout our day. If you’re looking for a way to foster optimistic energy, practice gratitude journaling and/or prayer.
A recent scientific study found that people who reflect on things they’re thankful for through gratitude letters have better long-term mental health than those who don’t.
What would having a more positive outlook do for you?
Let me know in the comments below.
Focus Within & Meditate
Many people rush into their day without taking time to center themselves.
If we don’t take time to fill up our own cup first, we won’t have anything to share with others.
You can’t pour from an empty cup!
For this reason, one of the most powerful ways to prevent burnout is to start your day by finding wellness within and meditating.
In last month’s blog I introduced you to several tools that allow you to decompress and focus within, such as meditation and breathwork. Many business professionals like you worry that they don’t have the time to do these practices. The truth is, it doesn’t have to take much time at all!
In fact, meditation is so powerful that it takes only a few moments each day to reap plenty of benefits, including…
Relaxation of the mind and body Decreased muscle tension and stress Improved sleep Better focus and concentration Improved digestion Lower blood pressure Improved mental health Increased intuition
The best part is, you can practice meditation or breathwork anywhere at any time.
Spend time honoring your body each morning by focusing within.
Visualize Your Day
When was the last time you paused to ask yourself, “How do I want to show up today?” or “What do I want my day to look like?”
These simple questions can have a transformational impact on your whole day. When we visualize something enough, it can become our reality.
Have you heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? It’s the idea that if we constantly focus on the negative, then we will see that come alive in our lives. So many people are there, right now, living in fear. Being stuck in a pattern of negative thoughts can have a negative impact in your body and life.
Instead of putting your energy into what you’re afraid of, harness that energy into what you’re hopeful for instead. Break free of this negative pattern as early in the day as possible so you can set yourself up for success.
Stimulate Your Mind
When was the last time you did something to stimulate your mind? Most of us go throughout our day on auto-pilot out of habit. A thoughtful path to health and wellness often requires intellectual and spiritual growth. If we aren’t learning, we aren’t growing.
Challenge yourself to read or learn something new every day to stimulate your mind and encourage learning and growth. This can be as simple as reading a few pages of a book each morning. Of course, make sure whatever you’re reading is enjoyable so that you’ll be motivated to continue each day.
If your reading list isn’t exciting you and you’re looking for suggestions, check out my book, Healed His Way. It’s about my personal journey overcoming health struggles through approaches to healing that aren’t typically addressed in mainstream Western medicine. I put a lot of research and passion into writing it to help others like you.
Get In Some Morning Movement
More than any other time of day, mornings can be a fantastic time to get in some movement. For one thing, there are fewer distractions! Messages, emails, and meetings aren’t fighting for your attention this early.
Another incentive to start your mornings with movement can be inspired by one of Newton’s general laws of physics…
“An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion” – Isaac Newton
In other words, when we start our days with movement, we are more likely to honor our bodies with movement all day long.
To add to the list, have you ever heard of the runner’s high? Personally, I’ve never experienced it first-hand because I’m not much for running. But in general, exercise improves my mood and energy and probably yours too. This occurs because the brain is producing endorphins that make us feel good.
Try to get in some morning movement to start the day in a good mood. You will likely sustain your energy all day long.
The Time Is NOW to Build A Morning Routine
If you haven’t been able to check off all the things on your to-do list in the past month, don’t be too hard on yourself. We have all felt burnt out from trying to take on so much without taking time for our own wellness.
Give yourself some grace, and don’t give up!
Now is the time for you to step back into your power.
Create healthy boundaries and start to build a morning routine. It’s so much easier to do the right things later in the day when you’ve started the day with something healthy.
Don’t worry about how much time you spend for yourself at first. Just start somewhere,and do what works for you. When you put these tools to use, you’ll surprise yourself with just how much you can accomplish.
If you’ve been struggling with burnout and have been having trouble focusing on your goals, you’re not alone. This month, I sat down with Megan Warren, a fellow practitioner, to talk about different ways to build routines to benefit our own health and the health of our clients.